7 Ways to Escape the Need to be Perfect

7 Ways to Escape the Need to be Perfect

If you’re a perfectionist, you probably find that it’s a challenging way to live. In most cases, it’s a road to disappointment and dissatisfaction. It can also have a negative effect on the relationships in your life.

When you’re a perfectionist, it seems like nothing can ever be as perfect as you’d like. Perfectionism consists of demanding a higher level of performance than the situation dictates. The key to excellence is finding an optimum performance level to achieve good results. After all, what is perfect? Everyone’s ideal is different, therefore ‘PERFECT’ can never be achieved!

These tips will help you escape your quest for perfectionism:

1. Give yourself a break.

Eliminating the urge to have everything be perfect takes time. It’s important to start slowly and congratulate yourself for each victory, even the small ones. Set reasonable goals and reward your accomplishments. The most important step is to take action…

give yourself a break from being perfect

2. Provide everyone else a break, too.

Trying to be perfect and expecting the same from others is an attempt to control them. This can be off-putting because others want to be free to act without being criticized. Make others feel great instead of judging them!

Just because something is less than 100% doesn’t mean it equals zero. That’s an overly simplified way of dealing with the world. 

  • Avoid viewing everything as all-or-nothing. The subtleties of life hold most of the beauty of the world. Open your eyes and consider everything.
  • Learn to understand when something is good enough and then move on to the next thing. Spending more time or effort than necessary is far from being perfect. If you think about it, perfectionism is a way of being excessive and inefficient.
“The most beautiful things are not perfect, they are special.”

3. Learn how to see all the variations.

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4. Avoid over-emphasising negative results.

View these situations as anomalies, rather than evidence of anything else. Avoid giving negative results more relevance than they deserve.

5. Develop your sense of humour.

With a good sense of humour, you can shift your perspective quickly and easily. This makes it easier to deal with those situations that turn out less than perfect.

life is not perfect

6. Realise that most mistakes aren’t fatal.

Nearly any mistake can be rectified. When things go in an unplanned direction, go with the flow. This can be challenging for a perfectionist.

  • Avoid letting your emotions lead you to a negative, unproductive state. Instead, be proactive and start coming up with solutions that will still take you to your goal. They may include a temporary detour, or take longer than originally planned, but the end result will be satisfactory.

7. Avert the urge to use perfectionism as a way to procrastinate

Some perfectionists avoid beginning a task that’s less than desirable. Getting started and making a few mistakes is more preferable than doing nothing at all or getting started too late.


Perfectionism can negatively impact your life because it’s an ineffective and unenjoyable way to live. Learn to let go of your need to be perfect. You’ll be more pleased with your life and feel much happier. Your loved ones will be happier, too! These tips can get you off to a great start and help free you from perfectionism!

To get results, require you to take action, and it doesn’t have to be perfect, give yourself permission to just go for it!


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About Gilly Hughes

I'm Gillian Hughes and I’ve had a long-standing passion for self-discovery, self-development, spirituality and many other things considered ‘woo-woo’! I love the endless possibilities available to us through developing our hearts and minds. And through my ongoing learning I have become a jack of all trades and a MASTER in bringing them all together to help people like you create a more fulfilling and happier life.

1 Comment

  1. Kathryn on May 24, 2021 at 10:16 am

    Great article – food for thought! Thank you x

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